The biggest lie ever told, was the big sell-out dream of finding ‘The One’.
This is certainly a worthy goal, yet it will be your greatest opponent too.
Most of the time, your opponent is yourself.
I know you must be tired and apathetic to the phrases that come along after and during a heartbreak;
“Be glad for the lessons.”
“You have to love yourself first, before anyone can Love you.”
“You’re better off without them.”
“If you Love them, let them go.”
“They just weren’t the One for you.”
I’m not going to give you my word that all the above phrases are BS, but I am certainly going to tell you about the truth of relationships, why you’re attracted to certain people, why they leave and where you are heading.
Sounds too good to be true?
Well that’s because we Humans, love complexity because we are natural problem solvers.
When things are too simple, we make a problem to solve.
So – for one tiny minute – turn off that instinct and turn on your Simplicity receptors, as I like to call them.
Let’s entertain the simplicity of these questions and dynamics we call “relationships”.
Ready? Let’s go.
A client of mine was reeling from a break up. It tore her apart on many levels;
Morally, psychologically, emotionally.
The absolute clinging to the fact that he was ‘wrong’ was what her body had to hang onto, in order to stay small and significant in her pain, her small-ness.
There was no feeling or thought beyond that.
The truth is, this ex-boyfriend, although not a practical partner, gave so many parts of her to herself.
He gave her the sensuality and openness which she was starved of in her life passed.
He introduced her feminine aspects of softness and emotion to her.
He gave her the permission to open her softness and embrace her vulnerability.
All of these things, she was not able to do on her own. Her Blueprint of a stern, male dominated childhood and adulthood did not allow her to explore this side of her.
THE ACT OF THIS HUMAN COMING INTO HER LIFE, AND SPENDING TIME IN HER LIFE, BROUGHT HERSELF TOWARDS HERSELF, in a way that she could not have done without this. LITERALLY.
It’s as if he was the wind in the sails of a boat lost at sea, guiding her back to the island of herself.
HE BROUGHT PARTS OF HER TO HERSELF.
HE WAS MERELY THE INSTRUMENT.
HE WAS HER GATEWAY.
HE WAS HER BRIDGE TOWARDS HERSELF.
Towards the end of the relationship, she was waiting for it to end, she said it was just ‘a feeling’ in her gut.
He had done his job, and without his betrayal that caused so much pain, it would have gone on long passed its cosmic expiry date.
Serve some for weeks, months, years or even decades – but each one serves you with exactly what is it you need to embody within yourself.
Don’t dwell on the loss or the pains – understand that it gave
YOU MORE THAN YOU EVER LOST.
IT GAVE YOU YOURSELF
In the most efficient way possible.
Says the cosmos,